How to Get Stupidly Happy after Breaking Up

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According to an article in Upworthy, 28-year-old Cheryln Chong went through a painful breakup with her fiancé and had a difficult time coping and explaining to her friends how she felt. So she made a comic book to illustrate it.

The result was “This is a STUPIDLY HAPPY COMIC BOOK about the Very Real Pain of HEARTBREAK (and how a turtle snapped me out of it).” Parts of the comic can be viewed at the Upworthy link above and more can be accessed through Chong’s email list.

Despite the cheery title, Chong’s comic book addresses the sorrow and despair a person can encounter after a relationship ends.

Teddy bear sitting alone at night on a bench with head bent low as if sad.
Comic books like Chong’s allow us to see ourselves in a different light. (license)

On her website, Chong says, “After a very painful breakup, I made a comic that touched thousands of hearts worldwide. I now want to deliver the essence of this comic to you, in the form of new comics, new healing techniques and tons of laughter.”

The happy comic about heartbreak was appreciated by posters to her website, and Huffington Post reports that Chong made a Christmas breaking up comic too, and now provides bundles with tips for 30 days of healing, social interaction with others in similar situations, and her comic books.

Dog sits with head on the floor. He is wearing reindeer antlers and red nose costume.
Holidays present extra challenges for the recently brokenhearted. (license)

According to the article, Chong said that holidays and the expected cheer can make break ups more difficult because others may not be as understanding as you wish.

“I wanted this illustrated guidebook to help with just that. If you’re brokenhearted, it really is time to take back your damn holiday!” she said.

Man hugs guitar tightly.
Doing something you enjoy is one way to love yourself. photo credit: my favorite girl 🙂 via photopin (license)

Taking a lesson from Chong’s books, the healing process begins with self love.

If you’re struggling with emotional challenges, Emotions Anonymous provides their twelve-step self-help program online (click on “EA’s Basic Pamphlet” at the bottom of the page).

According to Emotions Anonymous’ health care pamphlet for the Medical Community, “Our aim is to help anyone with any emotional problem get their emotions back under control so they can make healthy choices in life.”

Man hugs a poodle.
An example of kindness: giving a hug. Not only does it make both parties feel good, others feel good seeing it! photo credit: Day 56 – Puppy Love via photopin (license)

Integral to their program is committing random acts of kindness.

Ideas for random acts of kindness:

  • pay for the next person’s meal at a restaurant or drive thru,
  • put money in someone’s parking meter if they’re running out of time,
  • write a thank you note to someone for something they did,
  • give a gift package for someone who’s homeless, including socks, a bus pass, batteries, toiletries, a book, and some snacks in wrappers, or
  • deliver care packages for a group of children at an orphanage.
Heart circle that reads Pay It Forward.
Paying it forward is a way to encourage the spread of acts of kindness. photo credit: Pay it forward via photopin (license)

When someone catches you being good and wants to return the favor, tell them to pay it forward. Maybe they’ll show kindness to someone who is experiencing a breakup.

If you or anyone you know can’t find strategies for relief or feels suicidal, you or they can contact the National Suicide Hotline online or call 1 (800) 273-8255.

According to their website, “By calling 1-800-273-TALK (8255) you’ll be connected to a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area, anytime 24/7. . . You will be helped by a skilled, trained crisis worker who will listen to your problems and will tell you about mental health services in your area. ”

Source: The heartbreaking reality of heartbreak, beautifully told in a 16-part comic.

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